When I was in college, there were an overwhelming amount of shows on the air, mostly sitcoms or dramas, that were based in lovely New York City. The characters were always fabulous, their apartments or homes lavish, their jobs were dream jobs and their wardrobes were legendary. Shows that come to mind are: Felicity, Time Of Your Life (it lasted only one season), Friends, and of course, Sex and the City.
They were all fun to watch. But they were also somewhat depressing to many of us native New Yorkers who weren't living the fantasy and were still working on our dreams. I used to talk to my friends, many of them female, and we would all lament about not living the city life shown and celebrated on television.
For a time, I thought that the fantasy hadn't happened yet for me because I wasn't born with a perpetual silver spoon and I was a broke college student. And yet, that hadn't stopped Felicity from living the dream in our fair city? But alas, I wasn't Felicity.
I thought that maybe once I graduated from college and began working that I would begin living the dream. Well, not quite. I realized quickly that I didn't make enough money right out of college to live the dream. But that didn't stop me from saving up and scraping up the money to experience a little bit of the dream from time to time. Though it wasn't as frequent, nor as fabulous, as I had previously imagined.
But I wasn't bitter. I was still naive and optimistic enough to hold out for the dream. (I have to laugh at that myself). I just continued to press on and push on and made a decision to enjoy the moments in my city life, however imperfect or not-as-fabulous they might be.
As time went on, there were moments when I would feel sad when I watched one of the aforementioned shows and lament that my city life wasn't like that. Or not even a NYC version of the cult classic "Girlfriends."
But as life went on, I discovered, through my writing and as I grew into adulthood, that most of the 8 million New Yorkers aren't living the New York Fantasy! For most of us it's a dream, something to aspire to and something to be inspired by. And you know what, that's just fine.
These days I look at my favorite New York-based shows in a new light. I'm inspired by the fashion, entertained by the situational drama and aspire to live in the homes or have the jobs that the main characters possess. I'm determined to create my own dream life, here in New York City, or elsewhere.