I was just listening to Kid Cudi’s new album today and when there’s this line in the song, Wild’n Cuz I’m Young, where he says:
dark skinned china doll with the fake titsice grillin’ my spanish chick, word
And I love Cudi and all, but I found myself just a tad annoyed. Not about his mention of dating inter-racially (who cares, it’s 2010), but because I wonder if he is implying that the dark skinned china doll has a problem with his woman because she’s Latina. I don’t really know what his intentions were, however I think that this line reminds me too much of the hyper-sensitive inter-racial couples who think that everyone is against them and/or judging them.
While I’m sure some people are still insensitive-judgmental-racist-idiots, most aren’t. And people should not assume that because you’re in an inter-racial relationship that anyone else really cares—because frankly, most people don’t.
I have encountered many couples here in the city (NYC), especially as of late, where the guys and their girlfriends have given me dirty looks or slick smiles in the hopes that I will be annoyed/jealous/envious of their inter-racial love. I always smile back, broadly, because love is love to me. I have even smiled at couples who I thought genuinely looked good together or were very much in love and received resentful/questioning looks in return. I always shrug and ignore it, but I wonder where all of this hyper-sensitivity comes from.
Sometimes I wonder if all of the media fodder about sistas not getting love, not getting married and being angry/bitter about men dating outside of the culture, makes people assume that we really are not getting any love. No one should believe the hype. The truth is we are, and from men of all races I might add.
In the end, I truly believe that love is love. As a Black/Multi-Racial person, I would probably not exist had it not been for the interracial relationships of my ancestors. And if the love is genuine, no one should not care what anyone else thinks nor think that they have to prove their love to others.